Want and need may sound like two sides of the same coin, but their subtle differences -- in the end -- lead to vastly different fruit in a man's life. Needing to be needed is no way to live, and seemingly self serving. Wanting to be wanted is oddly less selfish, but in the end, more about self. Maybe true self is the soft middle of the coin, indistinguishable on the surface but always seeking to balance the times to need something versus the times to want something more.
A buddy of mine recently became the guy at his job. Out of respect for the nature of the situation, his name and title are not important. But it's fascinating to see him change before the eyes of so many. For many years, he's been a key team member and leader in the operation, and a go to guy playing a pivotal role in the growth and success of the organization. Ready or not, in a time of great crisis, his shoulder was tapped -- his name cried out in desperate panic -- to lead a troubled group of shell-shocked people out of troubled waters.
He's what I like to call a wanted man. Sometimes I think about what it would be like to be wanted as apposed to just needed.
I need to be a good husband, dad, friend, colleague, and employee. I want my wife, kids, friends, colleagues, and boss to want me around for the job.